mean mommy

from the unpopular mommy files no I am not letting C head out trick or treating on his own

name , rank & serial number

with all things medical your date of birth is prized information, since we have most currently been dealing with David's medical issues his birth date is usually the first to come spilling from my mouth, followed by C's and then after a moment or two I can usually remember my own.

comin up on birthday party time

hard to believe that another year has passed and C will be turning 9.
Good grief 9!
My plans for a small sleepover and a movie were soon thwarted by a party he attended at Laser Quest so C is having his birthday party at Laser Quest...
I am such a pushover really!
I have sworn off gift bags as well I mean come on am I not spending enough on the party, pizza, drinks and cupcakes that I have to give each kid a gift bag as well?! As much effort as I have put into gift bags in the past I might as well have just handed each kid a five spot on their way out the door. And yet C has already started clamoring for just tattoos and maybe a pencil what about gum or bubbles?
UGH

and yet another day of phone calls from the school clinic

day 3? day 4? I have lost count. I finally have called the office and requested he be allowed to go to the library for recess instead of outside. I hate to do that but I am not about to drop everything and bring him home suffering from just allergies, nope not going to happen and I warned him of that this morning. Yesterday the Doctor gave us a nasal spray to go along with the Allegra they had already prescribed(and declared him asthma free thank you very much) but this is the worst bout he has ever had to deal with. I hate that he feels miserable and hope these meds start kicking in soon. I do feel mildly guilty but come on he can not just lay out of class for the entirety of allergy season which in K-town seems to be the better part of the year!

Mommy faux pas

C has been in an apples & peanut butter for snack sort of place lately. I have been buying him the pre-cut stuff to take to school (lazy & costly probably but who wants brown apples for snack?!) anywhoodles I grabbed some at the grocery this weekend except..shock horror gasp.. I bought High School Musical apple packages. Of course those will just not do!
this morning I get "I think I'll just stick with grapes today Mommy"
Daddy has graciously offered to take them in his lunch.

I use to think I was losing my mind slowly

except it seems to have accelerated lately. I missed that doctor's visit by 24 hour last week then yesterday, and I wasn't going to publicly admit this but I completely went to the wrong building for my lecture.
It took me more than a few minutes to figure it out.
And some help from someone else.
I felt utterly & completely stupid. This is a community college and not a large campus-what 4 maybe 5 buildings? So I was few minutes late for class what a great way to start the semester off on the right foot. Oh how your opinion of lateness changes when you are an adult and paying for school yourself! On to my next gaff...the PTA staff appreciation committee has a soup/salad luncheon for the teachers and I volunteered to make my tortellini soup because it is super yummy and super easy to make. Got up this morning and put it together, threw it in the crock pot and drove C and the soup to school. Walked in to the office to drop it off and oops the soup/salad lunch is next Friday. I am having some issues here! I suppose on top of the day timer I carry in my purse and the calendar I have in my kitchen I am going to have to start scheduling things on my computer and my cell phone.

sentimental or just weird?

the collection of baby teeth in my sock drawer? why was I saving them?
Yup those have to go!

glad we only have the one

because he won't stop talking to me, following me, asking questions, asking for food, can he have a hug, what about television, can he play computer, can he join this web site, what about that one, ohhh what can he do now, is it time for dinner yet, what are we having? Oh my God if I had more than one person doing this today I would wind up in a sanatorium. Heck if the one I got does not stop soon I might wind up there yet. Although if there were another rugrat maybe they could bug each other and leave Mommy alone?

evidently I need a time out

just hollered at C for moving the gift card for tomorrow's birthday party...except I had not taken the gift card out of my purse.

taking to my sick bed

hahaha pretty funny stuff. No went to class, I am at work now, have lab this afternoon, pick up C, get Halloween costume, make dinner, do dishes if I remember to get soap for the dishwasher and probably laundry thrown in at some point for good measure. I miss the days when I got a cold and I could go back to bed and have people fetch me juice and ginger ale, ginger ale with the bendy straw no less 'cause that is the true testament to being sick, the bendy straw.
My voice is starting to catch a little so I am hoping that does not mean laryngitis, always some fun stuff. It reminded me of when C was a toddler and he heard that I had lost my voice the funny little quizzical look on his face "where did it go mommy? I will help you find it" ooo why is my cute little monkey growing up so fast?

mom of the year

yeah still not me...
C recently complained he was having trouble seeing the board so I made an appointment with the optometrist for both of us, I was due for my annual anyway. Honestly I had considered it might be a bit of subterfuge on his part as he seems to be having trouble with the 3rd grade transition(deserving of it's own blog one of these days). But good grief the minute I saw him trying to read the eye chart poor kid yes he indeed is in need of glasses! They should be here in a week or so pictures to follow.
I of course needed a stronger prescription on my contacts, wonder how Oscar would fair as a seeing eye pooch?

15 years old

just children, boys, really babies one ends his day in a pine box the other a jail cell.
This morning's shooting has let me very disturbed and unsettled.

first day of school

his first at the Intermediate School no less! I reminded him about 10 dozen times to stay on the bus when they got to the Primary School and as I have not gotten a frantic phone call I am assuming he remembered-he does have friends on the bus so it really wasn't a huge concern. C complained of a sore throat off & on yesterday and had an ever so slight fever but a shot of tylenol & early bed time he was right as rain this morning. D reminded me the boy had the same sort of minor illness after the day camp sleepover last year so just need to file that info away for next year and tylenol him before the sleepover perhaps. Surprisingly he got right up this morning still stumbling a bit but he stumbled into the kitchen fully dressed and raring to go. I even made sausage & eggs for my baby-biscuits too although they were the microwave kind. His fancy new wrestling backpack has not arrived yet so I loaned him mine for the time being and his Yankees lunchbox was bursting at the seams with food for a growing boy. The bus did come at the correct time, there was some concern because I could not get the information to come up on the school website yesterday or this morning but 6.49 and it was there. One of the girls going into 4th grade informed C his teacher was hard & mean so I can't wait to hear his take on things. I am however sure it will be fine he is mostly a really good kid & a good student.
and I didn't even cry we all know what an absolute sentimental sap I am about this stuff so I was proud of myself-welled up a little but no real tears this year!

the mommy club

I am not a member.
Well yes I am a mommy but I don't have mommy friends or rather friends I acquired by being a mommy. I have the full range of friends who just happen to be mommies you name it we are bio, step, adoptive, foster, trying to become a mommy and our children run the gamut from the newborn just home this week to the grown woman getting married next spring and seemingly every age in between.
I am friendly with the mothers of his classmates, baseball buddies, church friends etc we carry on conversations for the odd hour or two when we are thrown together but these are not ladies I am lunching or shopping with. It does not bother me per se , for the most part we have just surface sorts of things in common but the one time of year it bugs me is back to school I have no idea what his teacher is "really" like and no one to call and say hey what do you know about so & so what sort of teacher are they?
That being said meet & greet went just fine in fact rather quickly as the new teacher was not particularly chatty with any of the kids or parents. I suppose we'll see. Ran into some kids & parents we knew unfortunately C is only in class with one boy he knows from kindergarten but he makes friends quickly so I am not concerned about his social life. Curious to see what sort of homework he gets this year that will be an adjustment for him. Again I suppose we'll see what this year brings.

mommy of the year

yup not winning that one again. This morning got up got the boy up at O-dark-hundred, he was dragging out of bed doing his whole oh my belly hurts routine and verbatim from me
I don't care if you throw up we are flying today regardless so get your butt out of bed and move.
So he threw up. Not sure what prompted it but he has been out of sorts most of the day thus far. You can tell he was sick and this wasn't just an over excited sort of thing first of all he has refused food more than several times today, he did not drink his soda on the flight, he did not play his nintendo ds either. In fact he slept most of the flight and the drive to my parent's house as well. We manged to get him to eat some toast and drink some ginger ale so we'll see, not a fun way to start a vacation though.

a moment in time

I am not too sure what exactly was going on 8 years ago today.
I do remember it was the last night it was just the 2 of us June 13, 2000 we became the 3 of us.
I know it was a Monday-I picked Tuesday to be induced and I know we went to lunch with his Mom but that is the only memory I have of that day. I am fairly sure I would have been somewhat anxious but it is a clean slate for me overshadowed by the following day which is one of the most incredible days in my life..

last day of school

I guess this makes me the mother of a (gulp)
THIRD GRADER?
I am also the weepiest mother in the history of all motherdom, he switches to the Intermediate school next year so this was our last drop off at the Primary school and of course I got misty eyed
go ahead mock me I know I'm pathetic.

pivotal mommy moment

so on Saturday I willingly, knowingly & purposefully put my child in harm's way then left to pick up Chinese food.
Calm down no need to call DHS or child protective services. I did not give him matches or tell him to run down the middle of Kingston Pike carrying scissors no nothing like that.
I dropped him off at a birthday at the ice rink.
I left that building with the certainty we would be spending the evening at the ER. And yet I left I left my baby because he is no longer a baby.
I spent the following 2 hours on edge with the phone just about in my hands and a sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach.
Luckily I was wrong he fell on his face before he ever got on to the ice and decided skating was not for him. C took off his skates and joined 2 other boys watching spongebob in the party room.
I could have told C no you don't know how to skate you can not go to this party but that doesn't seem fair he is friends with this kid and who knew he might have taken to the ice like a little Wayne Gretzky. He did not. Heck one of the other boys not getting on the ice was the birthday boy himself! Not quite like when C missed his own party due to illness but I would have been a bit peeved if I was this kid's mom. Makes me wonder why you would have a birthday party at a rink?

although

in an awww shucks window on D our first mother's day as a married couple he gave me a present "because someday you will be some one's mom"
I should leave it at that but of course I won't
He gave me a pepper spray key chain to ward off bad guys. nice sweet ok except for the fact he decided to test it in the apartment. just a word to the wise don't try that at home folks.. I guess I should be grateful he didn't spray me with the stuff
now as far as tomorrow I know C made me something at school and I know D made an appointment for me at Oasis day spa for the end of the month for a massage mani & pedicure and rumor has him cooking dinner for me and the MIL so we'll see......

so how many do you have?

kids that is I am convinced 3 is the new 2 and in the area I live 4 and even 5 very trendy, very trendy indeed sort of like a new bag or shoe...but I digress.
I always thought we would have 2 kids ourselves, turns out I was wrong. Somewhere along the way D changed his mind and by the time he reversed it I was conflicted about the idea of having another at this late date. Yes I know many women have children into their 40s and every thing is just fine and dandy-personally I have concerns both physical and mental and well quite frankly financial. When we had C we just sort of leaped into it fortunately at the time my MIL was available to watch C and be his daycare, D was also happily downsized from his job when C was 1 and with severance & unemployment was able to spend almost a year at home playing Mr Mom. When the boy was 2 we had a fantastic not so expensive daycare for him plus we were residing in my FIL's house for minimal rent. We managed-in truth babies are not sooo expensive they really start to cost as they get older and as far as I can tell it seems to be getting worse each year. We would need a bigger house with a second plus there is the extracurricular activities not sure where we would find the time and money for another kiddo or even to continue with things for C.
We got lucky with C he is a great kid, pain in the a** sometimes but a really good, smart funny kid, a fairly easy happy baby at the time, healthy with normal childhood ailments. I think as you get older it is more of a crap shoot with risks that scare me. Not to mention I am no spring chick and we could not afford any sort of prolonged bed rest or anything. Except for 1 week in the hospital I worked pretty much right up to the day I gave birth.
Back to the spring chick thing the thought of throwing up every morning dragging myself to work trying to nap as much as possible would be more difficult for me now. I don't even want to think about sleepless nights, endless diapers, infant illness when all you can do is hold them & they still don't understand why they feel horrible, potty training ugh!
On the flip side that warm little cuddly body snuggled up against you, the smell of a baby-the good kind not the baby puke smell, bright eyes looking up at you with a sly smile, arms grabbing to get picked up. I get jealous when I see someone with a baby!
Then again when my nieces were hear a car and trips with 3 kids-I would need prozac-seriously.
Watching another mother at the ball field the other night trying to wrangle 3 under the age of 4 while her oldest was on the field let me say I was glad I was able to get in a phone to my mom & read some of my book.
So there it is am conflicted at best on this issue but resolved that the one is probably it for us. Good thing he is such a wonderful one!